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Perfect Children

1/23/2015

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We are not prepared for motherhood, let alone to be mothers of kids with special needs.  There is no handbook, nothing passed down through the generations, no one telling you what to do- or if you have done enough.  We optimistically look at strollers and cribs and stroke our bellies, eating ice cream and thinking about the perfect newborn baby that will come out.  Not once do we ever have a vision of a child less than perfect.  A child that we love so much that it breaks our heart and when we don’t think we can help them, we actually feel physical pain and want to die.


Hopefully, as mothers (warriors), we do what we can for our children and pray that we are on the right track.  10 different doctors will give you 10 different diagnoses.  You will try gluten free, casein free, sugar free diets.  You will start giving all kinds of vitamin supplements because the only reason your child is rocking in the corner is because he is deficient in vitamin d, right?  You will try and try and maybe something will work.  Or not.  But you will see progress through hard work and early intervention.  I promise you.  


My son was officially diagnosed at 2 years old.  At 3 months, we thought he was deaf because he wasn’t responding to sounds.  We had him evaluated over and over again but didn’t have any real answers.  He was getting all kinds of therapy as early as 4 months old.  By 15 months, our pediatrician told me we needed to get him evaluated for Autism.  It was like I was in a bubble.  I heard him but I stopped hearing what he was saying.


This diagnosis enabled us to receive extensive services through early intervention and I will tell you these therapists became our family.  Angels put on this earth who never gave up on our son.  Cried with me, gave me a break when I needed it and celebrated with me when he learned something new.  I will forever be indebted to them.


Through the years, we have encountered many angels.  The progress he has made is truly unbelievable.  I have learned a few things along the way as well.


Perfect children are not typical children.  Perfect children are our children with all of their differences, learning disabilities, autism spectrum disorders and psychiatric disorders.  They are perfect because they are ours.


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    I am a married mom of 5 children aged 15, 13, 9, 8 and 5. Our 8 year old son was diagnosed on the spectrum at 2 years old and life hasn’t been the same since.  Marriage is hard without children, especially children with special needs.  We try and find the humor in the hard times and give each other space when we need it.  There are many times we want to throw in the towel (marriage is hard, right?)  but we always find out way back.  Together, I believe, we can make it through anything.  My husband is my rock and my sanity.  He is the most patient man I have ever met.  We divide our time between behaviorists, visiting private schools, trying to work full time jobs and every once in a while a date night where we get to fall in love all over again.  


    Raising special needs kids in not only a challenge on the marriage but for the rest of the family as well.  We do our best to keep them grounded and explain why our son gets special treatment but it isn’t always easy.  When I first agreed to write this blog, I was hopeful that I would be able to help one family.  Now I am thinking that maybe we can just help each other.  It is nice to know we are not alone on our quest to find answers, solutions, and to help our special needs kids grow up to be the best they can be.  Please reach out to me anytime. [email protected]

    Twitter: @whinetimemom





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